Confronting an Angry Boss - Anger Management

We all have had to confront an angry boss once in our lives, and many of us have this on a daily basis. The anger is the bosses, and not ours, and the worst thing that can happen is to react to wrongly. Follow our advise on confronting an angry boss and instead of being fired, you might even get a raise.

The Real Relations between Boss and Employee

One is reminded to listen to the song of Bob Dylan, “Everybody Got to Serve Somebody” . Even if you are self-employed there will be people you answer to. The presidents of great countries are answerable to many besides themselves. We all, in this life, will serve somebody else. Given this fact, and looking objectively at the boss-employee relationship, the matter of servitude it only relative.

The Angry Boss

Without full knowledge of the boss’s psychology, and motives, the angry boss can be real enigma. As an employee you might have erred, and in fact, caused the boss a great deal of trouble. When he or she confronts you with the situation, how you react to the anger will make all the difference. The idea is to metamorphosize the boss’s anger into constructive energy. Should you be able to do that, you might do more than save your job, but also you may find yourself with a promotion or rise.

Initial Reaction to the Angry Boss

If you find yourself be approached by someone screaming or being in any way abusive the worst thing you can do is to start reacting in the same way or manner. Keeping still and quiet initially is a very good idea, while maintaining the thought, “is he or she correct? Have I done that” . When you have a chance to speak, you might begin the disarming process by issuing a blank apology (should he or she be correct) and say “I was not aware that my actions caused such a reaction. If I in anyway made the error you describe, please give me the chance to correct it or make up for it”. It is very difficult to maintain a belligerent attitude to someone who is trying to redress the error.

Reaction to the Angry Boss in Error

It could be your angry boss has erred, and you are not responsible for the anger being projected. Even more than in the initial reaction, your reaction in this case has to be silence. It tales two to tango and should you choose not to dance here, the tango will quickly end.

Your next reaction can be, “I understand why you are so angered, and justifiably so. However I assure you that I as far as I know, I am not responsible for this situation. Perhaps I can assist you in discovering how such an error was made, and help you correct it if possible”

Unless your boss is void of intelligence (which is not usually so if someone has made the managerial status), your reaction will cause him or her to pause and consider you may not be the subject of his or her anger.

Cooling the Situation Down

If you are able to cool down the situation and the boss’s anger as well, you may be able to truly assist the person in charge to find a good way to correct the error or reason for being angry. If no solution can be found, you can certainly assist in damage control. Your attitude will be very well appreciated. We hope you follow our advice and get that rise and perhaps promotion. Remember, we all have to serve somebody.

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