Success - Success and Self-Esteem
Fear of Success? Fear of Failure?
What's holding you back? One of my clients came to me saying he wanted to expand his business - something he had thought about for years. He described the changes he wanted to make but he had taken limited action to make those changes happen. When...
"To laugh often and much; to win the respect of intelligent people and the affection of children; to earn the appreciation of honest critics and endure the betrayal of false friends; to appreciate beauty; to find the best in others; to leave the world a bit better, whether by a healthy child, a garden patch or a redeemed social condition; to know even one life has breathed easier because you have lived. This is to have succeeded." Ralph Waldo Emerson.
It seems that for most of us the word “success” is only for other people. We usually find ourselves looking outside and thinking: “Wow, if I only had his or her talent”, or “he or she is really lucky…” or “If I have only had the opportunity.” and so on.
We find ourselves questioning all the time why other people have success while we do not have it. Is that because they are lucky, more intelligent than us or better? Absolutely not, that is not the reason.
Only when we decide to start look inside ourselves, instead of looking at other people’s life, we will finally find out that we are successful. Success is an internal sense, is a feeling of satisfaction and peace, and is to be comfortable about us.
For many years I thought
Your Success Response is Physiological
Most people believe that success in business and finance is primarily the result of mental processes. But success has a physiological basis. The state of both the body and the mind determine your "success response." There are three components of...
that success was for other people but not for me, and also that was a matter of having a lot of money, be famous, have a perfect body and so on. (This could be the meaning of success for many people and I respect it, and I even support it as far as one can be comfortable with oneself and can enjoy from inside out to have a lot of many, or to be famous, etc.). But because I was not aware of this, what I did most of the time was to copy other people, trying to dress like them, acting like them struggling to get the main goal: “I want to be a successful person”. But at the end of the day, I got really tired of doing that and really frustrated because there was no satisfaction inside of me. I felt really empty, like living in a superficial world, and spending too much time trying to be loved by everyone and trying to please them.
Finally I realized that success was a feeling from inside out. And it was a big surprise to find out that I was a really successful person. I discovered that I have done a lot of things that made me felt happy and in peace, and this awareness helped me to discover that the main meaning of success was to be comfortable with myself.
Success is also to accomplish your goals, sometimes it could
Redefining the Meaning of Success
For the longest time, I always thought that success in life meant financial success. I mean, most of us would love to live in a huge home located on a sunny beach and not have to worry about finding enough money to just to pay the bills each...
happen that you have promised yourself to reach a goal and you failed. To fail is not important, what really matters here is your awareness that comes from inside out that you made the best you could to get there, and of course if you did not get there, you learned a valuable lesson.
We cannot measure ourselves from what other people think, because everybody thinks different and the meaning of success for me, may be different for another people. Success is to be simple and honest, to be in peace with yourself. Success is to trust you; is a great challenge. Everything you do or you try to do is important, may be, is not important for other people, but the main point here is to be honest with yourself and respect yourself. In order to accomplish this, you have to really believe in yourself first, knowing that your life is important.
“ Success it is simply a matter of doing what you do best and not worrying about what the other fellow is going to do.” John R. Amos
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